Solve Problems by Writing Agreements with your Child

In his Total Transformation CD's James Lehman mentions that it's a good idea to write agreements with your child about things. This is a wonderful suggestion. This way your child can't say, "Well, I thought you meant X," or "I didn't think you actually meant Z," or "I didn't know I was going to have that consequence if I didn't do such and such." By having an agreement written down there can't be any debates on the issue later. And if your child tries to argue about it just show them the agreement. If you have a child who repeatedly does not do his homework before watching TV, make him sign an agreement he'll do it or X consequence will happen. You also might consider putting a piece of paper on the TV stating "NO TV until homework is done." This will remind him. And he can't say he forgot about the rule so that's why he turned on the TV.