State to kids what is expected of them

In Lesson 3 in the Total Transformation CD: James Lehman talks about how parents should state to kids what is expected of them. In return parents should let their kids know what is expected of the parents. Both should be accountable for their responsibilities. This is excellent advice. By setting ground rules, #1, your kids can't come back and say to you, "I didn't know I'd be held accountable for that." #2, your child now knows who's in charge (and it's not them) and what's exactly expected from them. #3, they will know you take your responsibilities as a parent seriously (which I think is important to developing responsibility in children).